Marriage, ultimately, is an inner commitment
made between two people. It is a commitment to be life-partners, to love and support one another unconditionally, "for better or worse." This is not to say that divorce does not have its place, and that will be discussed later in this chapter. But the focus in marriage at its highest level is love and commitment.
Whether or not the marriage takes the traditional legal form is up to the specific couple involved. However, that "piece of paper" as it has been referred to in recent times, has its meaning and its place. In a like manner, so does the wedding band, symbol of the complete circle of the bond between the two people. And so, too, does the marriage ceremony, whether traditional or not. I am not saying that these traditions are right for every couple, but I am saying that there is indeed significance in these traditional forms. These are outer symbols of an inner commitment, and something most sacred indeed.
Depending upon the two people involved, the sacredness of their union could be of a deeper nature than with some couples who choose the more traditional path of marriage, for the true nature and degree of sacredness lies within the hearts and spirits of the couple involved. However, the marriage ceremony has a wonderful place, and need not be thrown out when you are seeking a deeper understanding of commitment. That would be akin to "throwing the baby out with the bath water," and is not the divine intent.
However, the divine intent which is the cornerstone of all marriages, whether traditional or non-traditional, is that a high level of unconditional love and commitment be upheld; and that the couple entering into such a sacred union does it with purity of heart, mind and spirit.
Gay Marriages
From the point of view of humanity, opinions concerning gay marriages span the gamut of thinking. This thinking ranges from seeing homosexuality as an utter sin to being militantly pro gay marriages. Humanity will have its opinion about any and every subject, so I asked the masters their viewpoint on this controversial issue. What they have told me might surprise many. I know it will delight the gay couple, and I sincerely hope it sheds some light on this issue for humankind in general and more particularly, for the family and friends of the gay couple.
What the masters have said is that, from a hierarchical point of view, they are in total support of gay marriages. Perhaps this sounds shocking to some, but I ask you to take a moment to pause and consider. The Hierarchy views us as souls, and ultimately as monads, in incarnation. They view each incarnation as an opportunity for growth, wherein the soul extensions and monads involved come into a greater balance, integration and unity with their own divine nature.
The more common way this is done is through the mating of soul extensions of opposite gender in order to balance the male/female polarities within each person, and within the group body of the couple involved. However, this is not always the case. Sometimes two souls (I shall herein refer to soul extensions as souls) come into incarnation with a more fully balanced male/female polarity already operative within them. This is not to say that they are more advanced than the rest of us, but simply to point out that this is their mission for a particular incarnation. These pairs of opposites have taken a unique blending pattern within these individuals. This is not something to be judged one way or another, but is simply a fact.
There are many subtle factors which find expression in a homosexual personality. Whatever factors are involved, we find this type of person in abundance, and they, or you, have suffered unduly at the hands of judgmental humanity. This is not divine intent, nor should we who are of a heterosexual nature allow ourselves to fall into the mode of judgment. Most probably we judge because we have been taught to and because that which seems to function outside of the "norm" is somehow upsetting and unsettling to humanity as a race in general. This should not and need not continue. We, as lightworkers, have a greater responsibility to accept that which is outside of the norm; for if we were to take a good and honest look at ourselves, we would gape in wonderment at just how outside the "norm" the bulk of humanity considers us!
To return to the subject of homosexual marriages, they are indeed approved by the Hierarchy. This is so because of all that I have previously explained, and because the Hierarchy is very much for the forming of group bodies that are committed in love to one another. The Hierarchy does not say that all gay couples should enter into an official marriage relationship; but they say that gays should have the right to do so if they so choose. On this aspect, their viewpoint is very much the same as for any couple situation. It is always the intent which they look for. The level of love and commitment between the partners is their primary concern.
And, as has been stated, they do find that an official ceremony can be of enormous value, for it anchors upon the physical realm that which has been created between the two upon the etheric, astral and mental realms. So they encourage all couples at least to consider this. Then, of course, they feel that all couples, gay or straight, should have the freedom to decide what their path will be. Remember, "Judge not least ye be judged" applies in this and all matters.
“For Better Or For Worse”
Let us now take a moment to consider one of the more traditional wedding vows, which includes the phrase "for better or for worse". Does this include abusive relationships? As mentioned earlier, the answer is “no,” for no one should ever be subjected to the abuse of another. Does this mean that divorce is not an option? “No,” for there are indeed occasions where divorce is the best available option. Does it mean through psychic attack or psychic disharmony? “No,” for no one should live within the realm of constant psychic attack. So then, we might well ask, just what does this phrase "for better or for worse” refer to?
The underlying meaning of the above phrase is simply that we do not "bail out” the minute our egos are offended or called to task or asked to rise to the occasion. Just a short while ago people were not able to “bail out” of a marriage situation as quickly as we are doing now. There is indeed a time when it may become totally appropriate to end the marriage or relationship, and for a variety of reasons, but the "butting of heads" of the negative ego is certainly not one of them.
Marriage, or any committed relationship, is not to be taken lightly. One does not enter the marriage union vowing to remain wed "as long as you shall remain in total agreement with me and support the indulging of my negative ego." Yet, this is the scenario which humanity as a whole is currently engaged in. This is truly antithetical to the very purpose of relationship, which is to bond in love for the support of each other on every level of your being. Ultimately, the purpose is also to help each other overcome the trappings of the negative ego by bringing those issues to light and then working through them. Through the lens of those of us on the path of ascension, this becomes even more critical an issue.
If we are lucky enough to find a life-mate or marriage partner, we can be an invaluable aid to each other upon our pathway of ascension into the light. We form a unique "group body of two,” and, therefore, are a spiritual team, being ascension buddies in the fullest sense of the word. We each benefit from the advancements of the other. The more light and love quotient our partner brings forth, the more is brought into the group body as a whole. The more clearly one of us can see, the clearer the vision of the whole. We are there to help sand smooth the rough spots within our auras, and equally there to caress and embrace one another in love and support.
On one level this is infinitely easier than trying to do it all by yourself. In today’s world there are so many bases that need covering, it is a blessing indeed to have a partner to share in the basic work involved in the processes of daily living. It is also a blessing indeed to have the added spiritual support, as traversing these realms is by no means a simple matter either. Bringing in ever higher, more intense quotients of love, light and power, puts the four lower bodies into a constant state of readjustment to these new energies. This frequently leads to a greater sensitivity in the physical body as it struggles to anchor these divine and rarefied energies into the dense form of matter. Thus, can a partnership be of great value in a multitude of ways to those of us who tread the path of spirit on Earth.
Now there may come a time when that which once worked to uplift no longer works to either uplift or support, and a separation may become inevitable. However, before discussing this, let me reiterate that this is not a matter to be taken lightly. Everything should be done to try and work issues through, as the bringing up of issues goes hand and hand with being in a romantic relationship in the first place. Bringing into the light the darkness that lies hidden within our depths is one of the major benefits of a relationship.
It is important that if you do decide to separate, that this not be the result of a negative ego battle. Rather it needs to be because you have deemed it appropriate in a calm, rational, loving manner. If all marriages and partnerships were to end because two negative egos were in disagreement with one another, then all marriages and partnerships would end this instant. Unfortunately, all too often a relationship ultimately ends over negative ego conflicts. As lightworkers and beings on the path of ascension, I ask that this not be the case with you.
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