"Communication is to a relationship what breathing is to living." Virginia Satir
It is very important to understand that romantic relationships and relationships in general are very different when looked at from the soul’s perspective. To begin with, I would like to define some of the common terms that are used in metaphysical circles such as twin flames, monadic mates, and soul mates. There is great confusion about what these terms really mean.
Twin Flames
A twin flame relationship, Djwhal Khul has told me, is one where you get involved with a soul extension from your own soul. Remember what I said about how each monad creates twelve souls, and each soul then creates twelve soul extensions who incarnate in the material universe. Each of you has twelve soul extensions from your soul, of which you are one. A twin flame relationship is where you have a romantic involvement with one of these soul extensions in your soul group.
The interesting thing that Djwhal Khul told me is that this does not happen very often. As a matter of fact, He said that it is a very rare occurrence. The soul does not usually like this to happen very much because the relationship tends to be so powerful an attraction that people tend to get too lost in each other. It does happen occasionally, however not as often as most people fantasize it does. To be perfectly honest, when Djwhal Khul told me this I was surprised. I thought it was much more common to have a relationship with someone in one’s soul group of twelve. According to the information I have received it is not that common, but does happen on very rare occasions.
Monadic Mates
Monadic mates are a more common occurrence. A monadic mate is when you get involved with another one of your 144 soul extensions from your monad. Remember that if your monad creates twelve souls, and each soul then creates twelve soul extensions or personalities who incarnate into the material world, then the total number of all your soul extensions from your twelve souls is 144.
I explained elsewhere in my writings how I was told by Djwhal Khul in a dream that my wife, Terri, and I were from the same monad. We are not from the same soul, but from the same monadic group. We were also told that we were the only two soul extensions from our monad who were on the earth at this time.
This is an important point for you to realize in understanding these principles. Just because you have 144 soul extensions, it doesn’t mean that they are all incarnated on planet earth. There are millions of other planets in our galaxy or other galaxies upon which they could be incarnated. We must enlarge our perspective here.
It is also important to understand that when one passes the third initiation, the soul begins to call back its soul extensions to the spiritual world and focuses on the more spiritually advanced or active soul extensions.
Terri and I were told that three quarters of our soul extensions were already back in the spiritual world. This does not mean that they are evolved, but rather they are probably not the more advanced ones in a spiritual sense. If three quarters were not in incarnation that left approximately 36 still in incarnation, and many of them where on the Pleiades and other planets unknown to me. So meeting a monadic mate is definitely much more common than meeting a twin flame.
It is also very important to realize that you might meet a twin flame or monadic soul extension and they may be a totally different age, same sex, different country, different skin color, different language, different religion, no religion, not attracted to each other physically, fight like cats and dogs on a personality level and so on.. It just means you are going to have a powerful connection. The connection is a spiritual one, not necessarily on a psychological, or philosophical or physical level.
What I am saying is that I would not worry about trying to find your twin flame or monadic mate. If it happens it happens, but it is not something you really look for. What you look for is the right person, and the occult information about this person will take care of itself. Too many people are caught up in trying to find their twin flames and may be missing the opportunity that is there right in front of you.
Soul Mates
A soul mate relationship is one where two people who have a soul connection, have a relationship. This may have to do with many past lives that you have had together, and it may not. What matters most is that you are both soul connected.
I would like to add here that it is possible to have a soul mate connection with someone you are not even involved with romantically, and I am sure most of you do. I personally have a soul mate type of connection with my sister and even my mother.
It is very important to have these types of friendships, especially if you are not involved with someone romantically. Many people have very deep soul mate types of connections with their cats or dogs which are very beautiful. The pets serve as a type of pole or balance. If you are not in a relationship I might recommend that you get a pet for this purpose. The pet can serve also as a catalyst or intermediate step in the process of manifesting a relationship.
Relationships
The fourth category might be a relationship with someone who you are not connected with on a soul level, yet share many beautiful things. If you are in this type of relationship and you are being guided to stay in it, even though it is not a soul mate type of relationship, this is absolutely fine. It will be important, however, to have other soul mate friendships. It goes without saying that if you choose to be married to this person then the soul mate friendships would not involve a sexual component.
The Two Most Important Relationships in Your Life
The most important relationship in your life is not your relationship to your partner. The two most important relationships in your life are your relationship to your Self and God. The most important relationship in your life is your relationship to your Self. If you are not right with your Self, you will project your wrong relationship to Self onto everything in your life, including God. The second most important is your relationship to God. In reality your Self and God are the same thing, however before you can fully truly realize this you must get right with Self first.
A relationship partner is third on the list. If this isn’t clear you are headed for some suffering or karma. The danger here is trying to find your wholeness in another person, rather than finding your wholeness within your Self and God first. If you don’t do this, your relationship turns into a type of addictive love.
The Abrahamic Initiation
The Abrahamic initiation is an initiation every person on this planet has to go through if they are going to evolve this lifetime. The Abrahamic initiation has to do with the old testament story of Abraham (El Morya), who wanted desperately to have a son. He and his wife were something like 80 or 90 years old when God blessed Abraham and his wife with a son whose name was Isaac.
Abraham, on the birth of his son, started spending all his time with Isaac and began to forget about God. This went on for a very long time and finally in a quiet moment God spoke to Abraham in a forceful voice and told him that he would have to kill his son, Isaac. Abraham said "What, my only son?" God said, "You heard my commandment, follow it"
Abraham was in total conflict for three days. Finally after three days he decided that God came before his son. He took Isaac to the alter on the mountain, and got out his sword, and was about to swing a death blow to his son, when an angel came and grabbed his arm and said, " You don’t have to do that, Abraham."
What is the spiritual meaning of this story? What is it that you need to put on God’s alter? What is it that you put before God and your spiritual path? Some of the possibilities are: a child, a relationship, drugs, alcohol, sugar, cigarettes, food, sex, power, fame, money, material things, security, and so on. Didn’t the ten commandments say to have no idol worshipping, and to have no false gods. Whatever you put first in life is the God you worship.
To be able to pass the fourth initiation one must renunciate all that is not of the soul’s and spirit’s purpose. This could also be described as the complete letting go of all attachments and addictions. Are you worshipping any false gods? If you wish to accelerate your spiritual growth then place them on God’s alter. Many of these things and relationships will still be in our lives, but will be in their proper perspective. The spiritual path is living in this world but not of this world. This can also be described as "involved detachment".
The Soul’s Perspective on Self Love
If you don’t love your self it is not possible to have a healthy love relationship with another person. The ideal is for you to love your inner child, and for you also to allow yourself to feel and receive God’s love. If these aren’t established first, then you are going to seek your love, worth, approval, and acceptance from another person instead.
The Soul’s Perspective on Happiness in Relationships
Happiness is a state of mind, not a state of a romantic relationship. Happiness should be understood as something you have all the time regardless of what your partner is doing. Do not put the responsibility for your happiness on your partner. This is your own responsibility.
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