"Those acts are wrong that are not shared in love. Those acts are wrong that are selfish. Those acts are good, however,that cause a sharing between two souls" Universal Mind, Channeled Through Paul Solomon
One of the most confusing subjects on the spiritual path for aspirants and disciples is that of sexuality. In my opinion there are very few books that really explain this complex subject in an adequate manner. This subject is complex for a number of reasons.
First off because the ego and soul have completely different views on how sexuality should be used. Secondly it is complicated because the use of one’s sexuality is affected by some of the following variables.
1. One’s chronological age. 2. One’s soul age. 3. Whether one is single or married. 4. Whether one is single or in a relationship. 5. One’s initiation level in this lifetime. 6. One’s goals and purposes in this lifetime. 7. One’s past life karma and purpose for incarnation this time around. 8. One’s degree of physical health or lack thereof. 9. One’s commitment whether they want to ascend in this lifetime.
To begin this discussion of the understanding of sexuality let us first look at the difference between the ego’s view of sexuality and the spiritual view. The ego uses sexuality in service of the lower self or carnal self. The spirit uses sexuality only in service of the Higher Self and soul.
The ego is interested in only selfishly pleasuring of oneself. The spirit is interested in "love", and pleasuring the other as well as self. The ego treats people like a piece of beef. seeking to use that physical body for self gratification. The spirit sees the other person as the Eternal Self embodied inside a temple (body).
The ego has only physical vision. The spirit has spiritual and physical vision. The ego is a victim of one’s desires, senses, mind, emotions, physical body, sensations, and sexual energy. The spirit is master of these aspects of self, and uses them in service of God.
The ego, being focused totally on lust, uses all sexuality through the second chakra. The spirit recognizes sexual energy as just one octave of energy within the seven chakra system, and seeks "often" to raise this energy up through the chakra system for such things as creativity, greater physical health, love, service, meditation, greater shakti, mental illumination, spiritual illumination, and God realization to name a few.
The ego is obsessed with sexuality and looks at every person from this frame of reference. The spirit sees all people first as the Eternal Self and God incarnate. The ego uses all kundalini energy for sexual pleasuring. The spirit seeks to raise the kundalini energy, of which sexual energy is a part, to the crown chakra.
The ego seeks to have orgasm only at the second chakra level. The Spirit through practicing tantric sexuality seeks orgasm with one’s mate at all seven levels or chakras. The ego sees sexuality as the most important thing in life and gets moody, angry, upset, and irritable if it does not "get it".
The spirit coming from the frame of reference of absolute sexual mastery and disidentification with all one’s energies has preferences but no attachments. This being the case, the spiritual person remains within total joy, peace, and equilibrium whether they have it or not.
The ego can’t conceive of being happy without sexuality. The spirit’s happiness is a state of mind and has nothing to do with sexuality, and seriously considers celibacy as a viable option if one does not have a mate. The ego as the single person constantly gets into relationships that are not spiritually right because of the sexual urge and body attraction.
The spirit, being solidly centered in self mastery is perfectly willing to be celibate for one’s whole life if necessary, if the right "spiritual mate" isn’t manifested yet. The ego dissipates enormous amounts of sexual energy through masturbation. The spirit, although seeing absolutely nothing wrong with masturbation, seeks to raise some of this energy into "ojas shakti" (brain illumination).
The ego uses sexuality with the goal of having an orgasm. The spirit uses sexuality for intimacy and the sharing of spiritual love, and may often not even choose to have an orgasm. The spirit sees the foreplay as being more important than the orgasm.
The ego is interested in pornography, and is the state of consciousness that created it. The spirit does not use sexuality in this manner, and uses it instead for the glory of God. The ego is making love only to the physical body. The spirit is making love to the spirit living within the physical body.
The ego puts its own pleasuring first. The spirit puts the other person’s pleasure first. The ego is interested in having an orgasm as soon as is possible. The spirit is interested in having the sharing of love last as long as possible. The ego uses fantasy of other people often in masturbation or sexual involvement with a mate. The spirit is extremely self controlled in the use of fantasy recognizing that all minds are joined and that what one fantasizes affects that person.
The negative ego that controls the incarnated personality guides them to have affairs because of lack of sexual mastery. The spirit, understanding the law of karma, will never do anything that would hurt another person, that is dishonest, or that will build negative karma. The ego guides people to see others as sexual objects. The spirit guides people to see each person as God visiting you in physical form.
I could go on for a lot longer, however, I think that this section has given you a very clear sense of the basic picture. In summary, those sexual acts are sinful or wrong that are selfish and not shared in love. Those acts are good that cause a sharing of love between two souls.
It must be understood that sexual energy is just one of seven octaves of energy within the human body. There is nothing wrong with pleasure from a spiritual perspective. Is pleasure the only way you want to use your energy, however? There is not judgment from spiritual realms if this is your choice at any given moment. It is important to see the tremendous accomplishments, creativity, and spiritual growth that could be attained if this energy were raised, to a large extent.
Another important point to consider is that, according to the channelings of the Universal Mind through Paul Solomon, for whom I have enormous respect, "the physical act as itself would prevent the higher act of the soul from taking place." In other words, once the lower self or animal nature is given expression, it prevents you from being a channel for the Higher Self or soul.
In Paul’s channelings the Source also speaks to the fact that the sharing of fluids between two people creates a spiritual bond or cord of energy that cannot be broken for that entire lifetime. The cords can be broken in a psychological sense once the relationship has ended, however, not in a spiritual sense.
These cords are like electrical wires, and energy passes back and forth through them. This is why, in many spiritual teachings the giving of oneself sexually would be for the completion of the self for the lifetime.
If people understood the karmic bonds they were creating with people every time they had sex, I think they would be a little more discriminating about who they had sex with. Many people who are psychological victims, and not masters of their minds and emotions, are often victimized by energies flowing through these cords. Their moodiness, depression, and anger may not be their own, but rather those of a person with whom they slept, whose energies continue to flow to them through these cords. Since the energy flows both ways, the lifestyle of the mate or partner continues to flow back to you as well as from you, so it behooves one to choose wisely.
We all have these cords and the ideal now would be to achieve mastery of your energies so you are not victimized by the energies flowing through them. In the highest sense, you want to be such a generator of light and love that your divine energy flows back through these cords to uplift those people you have been involved with. This is nothing that you have to do consciously. The general lifestyle of being a light to the world will naturally or automatically do this.
It is also important to understand that the state of consciousness you are holding when you are having sex is what you are implanting into your partner. In other words, the man is not only implanting his physical seed, but also implanting either lustful energy of the lower self or the love of the Higher Self.
This applies to other forms of sexual activity, not just intercourse. Remember your partner is God, as you are. The question to ask yourself is whether what you are giving to your partner is what you would be willing to give to God, for in truth, that is exactly what you are doing.
So understand that the physical act is only a physical act. What is judged by Self, and God, is one’s mental, emotional and spiritual intents and purposes for entering the sexual involvement.
In situations where an affair has taken place, there is a karmic lesson or bond that has been created between all three people. This is nothing to be taken lightly, for this karmic lesson will have to be resolved in this life or throughout eternity, in terms of the ultimate balancing of one’s karma that must be achieved before taking ascension, or the sixth initiation.
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