Holy Space of Paravati

Blessings! I am Paravati. I am most known as the consort of Lord Shiva. I am here today to speak to you of devotion to your spouse/partner and to be of a passive nature in your spousal relationship. I am aware that this seems like an eastern concept to many of you, for being of a passive nature is seen as being an inferior being. However, I will attempt to put it into a wider perspective for all to understand.

I am known to be loyal and utterly devoted to Lord Shiva. Many devotees in the east hold a day of celebration specifically for my devotion to Lord Shiva. As a wife, I serve my husband totally with love, passivity and devotion.

I would like to express what passivity means in this case. For lack of a better word to express this, ‘passive’ has been chosen to be the most appropriate choice. In my devotion and love towards my husband I seek in all ways to be non-violent in all of my interactions, in words, thoughts and deeds. I seek never to react in any way that is un-Goddess-like in my words, thoughts and deeds as well. So you see, the word passive is simply used to express non-violence. Many women and men increasingly in the world frown upon the term to be ‘passive’, however, this is due largely to misinterpretation of ancient teachings of family values. The general misunderstanding is that a passive spouse is one who takes no responsibility for self or for the family or one who is not involved. As you can see, being ‘passive’ in this context does not mean that at all. I hope that this little explanation has helped to you to see the deeper meanings of what is understood to be ‘spousal’ duties.

In marriages of any nature, it is important for one to always seek to see your spouse as God or Goddess. Choose to see their Godlike nature, in so doing it is not difficult to maintain love and devotion towards each other. Be passive, that is, being non-violent towards your spouse, in word, thought or deed even if your spouse may have forgotten his/her Godlike nature. With this practice that is so close to your hearts and your lives, being close to God becomes second nature. For as you see God/Goddess in your spouse, you will be able to see God/Goddess in everyone.

I hope this little sharing has shed some light for you. May you be blessed in your union with God!